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Men as victims of Family violence

Posted by pauaprincess on August 1, 2007

It was announced yesterday, that all female patients and entering Public Hospitals, will be questioned about family violence.  No matter what their reason for entering hospital, in an effort to uncover family violence.

Women will be asked:

Has anybody ever threatened or hurt you?

Have you ever felt controlled or always criticized?

Have you ever been asked to do something sexual you didn’t want to do?

Now that is all well and good, I’m all for uncovering family violence and eliminating it.  However…

Men can be victims of Family violence too.  What’s more, it’s even harder for a male to admit it and  to get help. Men fear ridicule or that they will not be believed.  In addition, options for support for male victims of family violence is limited.

Understandably, legislation, aid and Police/Court procedure with regard to Family Violence concentrates on women being the victims with children as secondary victims.  All advertising campaigns portray women as victims. However claims by Men’s groups and surveys supporting a stance of Men as victims are met with excuses or outright hostility from Women’s groups for example.

“Women’s Refuge’s Henare gives a swift response to such statistics. “The question is about fear. Does she fear her husband? A woman is beaten by man for years, then one day she picks up an iron and says: ‘If you touch me one more time, I’m going to put this into your skull’. She is taking a stand the only way she knows how. Does he fear her? I suspect not.”

I take issue with that kind of attitude, there is a clear difference between violence as self defense and instigating it.  Women can instigate and in my personal experience, I know that Women can be perpetrators.

If the Government is serious about Family Violence Screening, they should be asking these questions of all adult patients, not just women.

It’s time to send a clear message that Family Violence is unacceptable no matter who the victim is.


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